Therapy And Booze Don’t Mix

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May 9, 2007 at 4:47 pm  •  Posted in Addictions by  •  0 Comments

By Joyce Parker, PhD, LCSW
 

Introduction
Drinking and Therapy
Developing Strong Coping Mechanisms
Sobriety

 

Introduction

Recently I had a woman come to my office wanting psychotherapy for depression. Her self esteem was very low. She no longer took pleasure in her normal activities. She felt lonely and pessimistic about the future. She said she had been using poor judgment. She had slept with a man she had just met. She had not used any precautions against pregnancy or AIDS. She reported that they were both drunk when they had sex. She didn’t think she had a drinking problem because she was not drinking on a daily basis. Nor did she always get drunk when she used alcohol. But she was getting drunk about two or three times a month and sometimes when she started to drink she had trouble stopping. She usually got drunk only when she went out to a bar or when she was socializing with friends. In fact, this woman was a binge drinker and was as much an alcoholic, although a different type of alcoholic, as those drinkers who get drunk every day. Of course, she wasn’t pleased with my diagnosis. She was in denial about her drinking and she didn’t see how her drinking patterns were relevant to the problem she had come in about, which was her depression.

Drinking and Therapy

Actually, there are many ways in which her drinking is relevant to her problem with depression and even more ways that it is relevant to her success or failure in therapy. Alcohol is a central nervous system depressant. Initially it may provide a feeling of well being as you become more relaxed from the depressant effect. But that initial high does not last and most alcoholics become more depressed as they get inebriated. The expression “crying into your beer” is relevant here. Also alcohol impairs judgment. People do dangerous, inappropriate and irresponsible things when they are drunk that they would not do when sober. When individuals drink over a long period of time, they have trouble coping with the challenges of life. This is because when you use alcohol to cope with problems or to help you overcome fears or insecurities or to make you feel more comfortable in social situations, you don’t use your inner resources. When you don’t use your inner resources to cope with life’s challenges, you don’t grow stronger and more emotionally mature.

Developing Strong Coping Mechanisms

In therapy, my job is to help individuals build stronger coping mechanisms and develop and strengthen their inner resources. Using alcohol addictively is a much easier way to cope. You don’t have to face your problems and acknowledge weaknesses and flaws. So I tell my patients that in a competition with alcohol, therapy always loses. Getting drunk is just a much easier and quicker way to cope. But it leaves you emotionally immature and dependent on alcohol to deal with personal problems. It undermines your self esteem and creates chaos in your life. That is why I say, alcohol or any addictive substance and therapy don’t mix.

Sobriety

I usually try to help people come out of denial. That is the first step to beginning the process of getting sober. Then I encourage them to use the self help programs available for addicts and alcoholics. That may mean joining Alcoholics Anonymous or going to an alcohol treatment program as well as attending therapy. Sometimes they resist giving up alcohol completely and I have to allow them to observe whether it is possible to control their drinking. It is usually not and they become aware of this over time. I support using a sponsor through Alcoholics Anonymous and working the 12 steps which are instrumental in changing alcoholic thinking and behavior. If you want to obtain the full benefit from therapy, you need to be sober. I have seen the emotional growth and positive changes in patients willing to make that commitment. It is worth it.

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Dr. Parker is a social worker and psychotherapist in practice in Torrance. She is a member of the Independent Psychotherapy Network. Her web site is www.therapyinla.com.

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