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Leaving the War Half a World Away
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Army National Guard
Specialist Chuck Ross |
Army National Guard Specialist Chuck Ross had been home from Iraq for a few months when he and his wife Jennifer came to a decision. Chuck was having trouble adjusting to life back home in America. His problem wasn't extreme, but Chuck knew he "wasn't himself."
"He'd get anxious when we were in crowds," says Jennifer. "He would look around, worrying about the people around him. At night, he had trouble sleeping. He would ‘do rounds' in the house and check on everybody." For Chuck, the biggest problem was his overreaction to aggressive drivers. "I'd lose it when someone would cut me off," he remembers. "And every loud noise seemed like an attack."
All very understandable considering the action that Chuck had seen. In Iraq, it had been his job to transport major pieces of equipment across the country — a job that demanded his senses to be constantly on high alert.
"In Iraq, anybody else on the road was a threat," he explains. "You never knew who was out to ‘swiss-cheese' your vehicle. A fresh patch of asphalt in the road could be an IED (Improvised Explosive Device), so you had to watch for those. In crowds, anyone could be a suicide bomber." Lives depended on vigilance and swift reactions. And Chuck had been put to the test several times, when his convoy and his base suffered deadly attacks.
But what might have saved Chuck in Iraq was a liability at home in the United States. Driving became a problem, and Chuck wanted to pursue his commercial trucking license. He wasn't eating, he wasn't sleeping. Jennifer was worried.
Most importantly, both he and his wife recognized the symptoms of combat stress. Jennifer's stepfather and Chuck's father had served in Vietnam, and their families had suffered devastating effects from their fathers' PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder). Chuck's father ultimately committed suicide. Both of the young people had vowed they would not let war rob them of their lives together. So Chuck decided to seek counseling.
A friend recommended Dr. Rick Selig, a licensed social worker in private practice in Topeka, Kansas. Dr. Selig had a great deal of experience in trauma and anxiety, and was quickly able to help Chuck take charge of himself.
"Think about living in a hostile environment for a year," Dr. Selig explains. "A world of snipers, rockets, mortars and improvised explosive devices. Every minute of the day, your life and the life of your friends is under constant threat. Your survival depends on your ability to sense and anticipate danger."
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Dr. Rick Selig
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Dr. Selig explains that under these circumstances, the body physically ramps up. Senses become heightened, reaction time speeds up, and the body becomes ‘hyperaroused.'
"A little of that's good. It's classic ‘fight or flight' response, and it can save your life," says Dr. Selig. "The problem occurs when you're not ‘downrange' anymore. You're home in America trying to enjoy a 4th of July fireworks display without subjecting your family to a panic attack. Because it's a physical response, it's very hard to simply talk yourself out of it. You need to learn coping mechanisms while your body readjusts."
Dr. Selig has an apt metaphor for the body's response. "Think about the last time you were driving your car and needed to pass the vehicle in front of you. As you pressed down on the accelerator, the car shifts into passing gear allowing you to go faster in order to successfully pass the vehicle. Now imagine that car being unable to downshift out of that passing gear. The body’s response to prolonged exposure to high-stress states is quite similar."
Chuck needed to downshift. But more importantly, he needed to understand what was happening physically, and to develop techniques for coping in his new civilian environment. Counseling, education, and support were all part of the treatment. Chuck and Dr. Selig worked together on finding ways to help Chuck slow down, develop relaxation and breathing techniques, learn how to face stress without going into fight mode, and working through the worst of the war.
"As social workers, we're trained to look at a person in a comprehensive way," says Dr. Selig. "We look at everything. We don’t just treat the symptoms, we look at everything: mental, physical, social, economic, and cultural influences. Our goal is to create, restore or enhance the resources our clients need in order to realize their capacities for physical, social, and mental functioning."
Today, Chuck has been able to put the stress of war behind him. "I knew I was better when I wasn't so anxious, and jumping at the slightest noise. I feel like I'm fitting in my shoes again," he says. "Counseling has helped me get back into civilian life. I can handle groups better. I can handle jobs and interviews better. If I hadn't had Dr. Selig to help, I don't know what I'd be doing now."
Dr. Selig respects Chuck's bravery in stepping forward and seeking counseling. "Chuck's symptoms were hardly extreme, but he could see that they were getting in the way. A lot of people coming back from combat wouldn't have had the courage to say ‘Look, I'm not feeling right. I've seen what this can do. I'm ending this problem now.'"
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Chuck also wants other military personnel who experience combat stress to be honest and deal with it. "This isn't about being crazy, or being tough." he says. "That's not the case at all. It's about taking responsibility for yourself and your actions. You have to turn the mirror on yourself and deal with it. You can't do it alone. You need someone trained and educated who can tell you what you're going through, who can help you become a civilian again."
"More of us have to know about these services and use them," he says. "A year of war can ruin the rest of your life and your family's life, if you let it. I've seen it happen. You've got to protect and care for the people around you. That's what soldiers do."
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Introduction
All the popular girls in Elly Troxell's third-grade class at Ashland Grade School took tumbling at Vickie B's gymnastics and dance studio.
And they all had the shoes to prove it.
The girls told Elly that without the special shoes, she was nothing. She'd never be considered "cool" unless she had a pair.
But Elly's family couldn't afford tumbling classes or brand-name clothes. Elly's attire came from Goodwill. She was a self-described tomboy, an athlete, a little chubby.
If only she could get the shoes, she thought, everything would be OK. She'd be accepted. Elly begged and begged her parents, but they told her no.
Finally, one day, they relented.
Elly got the shoes. Excitedly, she put them on and wore them to school the next day.
When the other girls saw that Elly had the shoes, they decided never to wear theirs again.
Elly was crushed. It wasn't about the shoes for those girls. It was about making Elly feel bad about herself.
It was about bullying.
The Effects of Bullying
Now 20, Elly is a junior at Western Illinois University and appears to be having the last laugh over the girls who once made her life miserable. She holds down several jobs and is a bright, attractive, petite blonde.
She is engaged to a man who, she said, "is the best thing that ever happened to me. He has such a good heart."
But Elly still hasn't gotten over how she was treated when she was younger – how she was the target of hurtful teasing and was socially shut out by girls in her class.
"They told me they hated me," she said. "I hated going to school.
"I have no friends that are girls. It's sad. I just want people to know that this can affect girls for their whole lives. I have very, very low self-esteem. I think I'm fat and ugly. I'm engaged, and no matter how much (my fiance) tells me I'm not, I don't believe him.
"I wish for no one to go through what I went through."
Elly is not alone. Girls in local school districts – regardless of size, location, affiliation and socio-economic status – share similar stories of bullies' effects on their lives.
Bullying Is Nothing New
This is nothing new. However, the nature of bullying among girls has become more sophisticated as participants use increasingly manipulative, psychologically painful ways to direct aggression at one another.
"(Girls) do not always act out. They avoid confrontations. They go under the radar and manipulate situations," said Jennifer Gauvain, a licensed clinical social worker in St. Louis. "What's surprising is that these things happen in first and second grade, and then it's growing worse by sixth and seventh grade."
Girls are expected to be caregivers, Gauvain said, and are not expected to express anger or aggression. As a result, they lack a socially acceptable outlet for such emotions and behaviors. This double standard prompts girls to find other, less obvious ways to channel their aggression such as purposefully leaving a girl out of a social activity, Gauvain said.
Because many girls hold grudges and often act out away from adults, their torments can go on for months, she said, although on the surface, everything seems fine.
Even victims at times can be unaware that the girls they believe are friends act viciously behind their backs. The line between a girl's friends and perceived enemies also can become blurred; such duplicity in female relationships leads many girls to feel insecure and distrustful.
Marica Cullen, assistant principal and guidance dean at Lanphier High School, offered an example: "(Girls) have messengers that go back and forth; then you have the ‘friend' who says, ‘I just want to tell you what Suzy said about you because I think you should know.' And then what Suzy said always got 10 times worse than what was originally said. It's a telephone game."
School officials interviewed for this story agreed that the issue of girl bullying is serious, but most were reluctant to specifically acknowledge the problem or speak about instances in their schools.
Those willing to discuss it said adults often are surprised to realize what some girls are capable of doing to one another.
"That ongoing, relentless bullying is a small percentage (of what happens with female students)," Cullen said, "but the ones that do it are painfully good at it."
Queen Bees
Girl bullies typically don't operate as stereotypical, tough schoolyard ruffians who pick on one or two weaker students, she said. Instead, girl bullies tend to work in groups with a leader or "queen bee" that turns members against another who is marginal and not as secure in the group.
Cullen said this behavior often makes the leader feel she can maintain her own desired social status and reputation by making others feel inferior.
Dr. Bill Moredock, director of family services at Sacred Heart-Griffin High School, said girls who bully also sometimes are acting on a need for attention and/or power, such as older girls who pick on younger students to assert their dominance in a school.
"Girls get mad by committee," Pleasant Plains High School Principal John Marsaglia said. "Girls get together and find five other girls that will listen to them and they start running people down."
Victims will have quiet signs of disapproval sent to them that are just as hurtful as saying it to their faces, he said.
Such tactics – glares, whispers, rumors – are frustrating for schools because there's little proof for disciplinary action, Cullen added.
"When they start to escalate is when then we can intercede … when they finally write it down in a note and call her a name," she said.
At that point, name-calling often is laced with profanity and sexuality, she said, such as calling one another sluts and whores. This often comes out in verbal confrontations.
Many students contacted or interviewed for this project declined to go on record for publication. One girl, though, has been on both sides of the issue.
Amy McClanahan learned at a young age how vulgar and degrading other girls' insults can be.
"I've had so many rumors started about me it's not even funny. That I'm bi, a lesbian, that I had sex behind the soda machine at school, in the bathroom …" said the 13-year-old Jefferson Middle School student. "There's this girl who walks past me every day in the hallway and will scream, ‘Amy's a bust down.' Everybody looks at me and starts laughing."
"Bust down" is a nickname for a girl who is sexually promiscuous.
The taunts first began, Amy says, in sixth grade because, like Elly, she didn't wear popular designer clothing. The name-calling escalated from picking on her shoes to rumors about her sexuality, shoving her in the hallways and leaving violent threats on her answering machine instructing her not to come to school.
"I could not stand it every day. Something different, every day. Another rumor, every day. Another girl, every day," Amy said, adding that her anger led her to smart off to teachers and a drop in her grades.
The names and threats frustrated Amy and worried her parents.
"I was almost dumbfounded in the beginning when she started coming home and saying, ‘Gosh, Mom, they started a rumor that I'm a lesbian,' " said Amy's mother, LaDonna McClanahan. "What are you supposed to say when your daughter comes home upset, saying she's not going to school anymore?"
Amy’s Story
When one girl in Amy's sixth-grade physical education class wouldn't stop picking on her, LaDonna told her daughter to fight back.
"I said, ‘You know what, if she goes up there today and takes her claws on you, take her head off …' " LaDonna said. "I'll deal with the suspension, and you'll deal with the suspension. But you know what, that girl won't touch you again …
"Now how are you supposed to teach your kids to do right when you have to tell them to go in there and knock their damn head (off) to get them to stop?" McClanahan said. "That aggravates me to no end because I teach her not to fight … but the girls don't stop."
Amy did fight the girl and was suspended from school. Since then, some of the other girls who bullied her have become her friends. Others continue to spread rumors, start fights, even damage
Reprinted with permission of The Journal Register.
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The single, middle-aged woman had moved from a shelter into a Section 8 apartment. She had one bed and one folding chair.
Last Saturday a truck and two station wagons with two men and four women arrived at the apartment and began to unload a bureau, a couch, two end tables, a kitchen table with four chairs, bedding, dishes, pots, pans and cutlery.
“Within 15 minutes the place was transformed,” according to Diane Mack of Bloomfield, one of the founders of A Hand Up, Inc., “and we were all transformed, too, by the woman’s joy and by knowing that A Hand Up had truly given a hand up. We realized that what had happened in her life – multiple losses of family members and other sorrows – could happen to anyone of us. The woman had applied for Section 8 housing after a stay at the Institute of Living, had battled alcohol, had found a job, finally gotten an apartment and through the Community Renewal Team (CRT) we were notified of the situation.”
How Did A Hand Up Begin?
Robin Gilmartin, a clinical social worker at the VA and also of Bloomfield, begins the story. “We were sitting around our kitchen table,” she says, “about a year and a half ago – Diane, who works for Mass Mutual, Rosemary Cleaves, a retired social worker, Jane Arnold and I. We were four women and a dog, “Jack,” our part border collie, part lab.
“We had been getting together once a month, trying to come up with a project which would make a difference. We thought of starting a special kind of thrift shop. Then one of us suggested cooky baking or marketing Rosemary’s low-carb, high protein pasta. None of those ideas seemed the answer.
“We knew that we could not try to provide housing or food or employment for people who had been homeless – other agencies do that – but then we realized there was a gap – and that gap is, as our brochure states, ‘to help people transition from homelessness to independent living.’ We wanted to distribute donated goods to help people in need establish new homes.”
And so they began, slowly at first, collecting in Diane’s and Robin’s Bloomfield garage whatever surplus household items – beds and blankets, dishes and dressers – that friends and neighbors donated. Another colleague, Christine Pina of West Hartford, was added to their steering committee, now totaling five women.
Rosemary, the group’s president, remembers that their first deliveries were made last September. “So far,” she says, “we have delivered goods to Bloomfield, East Hartford, Hartford, Windsor, West Hartford and New Britain. We work closely with CRT, and their social workers inform us of what each client needs. And it’s important to know that our efforts are ‘one time only’ – in other words, we can only supply a client once.”
“Adopt a List” is one of the schemes A Hand Up uses to engage volunteers. Here’s how it works: CRT provides a list of needs to A Hand Up, describing what one formerly homeless person, now moving into housing, requires to set up housekeeping. The list is given to one of our volunteers who then “adopts” the list, collecting from friends and neighbors and family the items A Hand Up will deliver.
“Horton,” a truck donated to A Hand Up, stands in the Bloomfield driveway, ready to make deliveries when CRT provides the address where the household items are to be taken. Other volunteers help load, drive and unload. Recently, for instance, supplies were unloaded at the apartment of a longtime homeless man, age 71, who has overcome a drug habit and was able to secure some of the needed items himself for his new living quarters. A Hand Up supplied kitchen chairs and a table as well as cutlery and towels.
“We take almost anything in good condition,” according to Rosemary, “except pillows – those have to be new.”
Statistics in A Hand Up’s brochure describe the need in the Greater Hartford area. For instance:
- Nearly 1,500 people are homeless each night in spite of the fact that 64 percent have some kind of income
- Of those homeless people, 40 percent are white; 30 percent are African-American; 30 percent are Hispanic; 10 percent are children; and one-third are female, two-thirds male.
- The average age is 37 years.
A Hand Up also has its own needs: more volunteers to help collect and deliver household goods, more home furnishings and a volunteer grant writer/fund raiser. Financial contributions are sought to supplement expenses currently being met by the new agency’s founders.
So remember that sturdy couch you no longer need? Or that set of Aunt Milly’s dishes that never come out of the cupboard? Or those pots and pans taking up shelf space? And are you looking to help a worthy cause?
To learn more about A Hand Up, go to: www.ahandupinc.org or email:
AHandUp2005@sbcglobal.net.
To receive a brochure about the organization or to make a contribution write to:
A Hand Up, Inc. P.O. Box 270323 West Hartford, CT 06127.
Reprinted with permission of the Bloomfield Journal
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Psychotherapist comes to Morris to share science of recovering from life traumas big and small
The world is awash in the trauma of war and natural disasters — Oklahoma City, 9/11, the 2004 Indian Ocean tsunami and Hurricane Katrina, to name a few.
But a phoenix has risen from the ashes of these blockbuster catastrophes: Data about the human brain and lots of it.
“If you just look at the climate of the world, you can make a very arguable point that there is more trauma now than at any other time,” said Belleruth Naparstek (Bell-a-rooth NAP-pur-stack), Cleveland psychotherapist and author of “Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal” (Bantam, $25).
“Some of the greatest trauma studies in recent years have been from the earthquake in Turkey in 1999. Hurricane Andrew, too.”
Since this data has emerged in the dawn of the age of brain imaging, it has been crunched and studied until it has revealed a true treatment for Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, or PTSD: soothing guided imagery. It’s as simple as that, though the imagery must be delivered in scientifically precise ways, a field in which Naparstek, known for her clear, down-to-earth speaking style, has emerged as a star in recent years.
On Saturday, Naparstek — whose groundbreaking guided imagery audiotapes are used in hospitals, clinics, homes and disaster relief programs worldwide –will talk about this breakthrough in alleviating human suffering. Local people can see her at Morristown Memorial Hospital at an event hosted by the Friends’ Health Connection, a nonprofit organization that hosts an array of educational programs on health-related subjects.
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The ability to self-soothe by conjuring helpful images is so effective in helping heal Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, it could be considered part of a prescription, according to Cleveland psychotherapist Belleruth Naparstek in her book “Invisible Heroes: Survivors of Trauma and How They Heal.” Imagery works, Naparstek says, because it: • Is absorbed by the tissue, bone, cells, skin and DNA of the body. • Sidesteps analytical brain centers and the resistances they offer. • Steers the body back into biochemical balance. • Restores control for a person suffering panic. • Affirms strength and hope. • Opens a wider, spiritual perspective on life. – Lorraine Ash
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The Friends’ Health Connection is excited to have Naparstek as one of its guests because her work has increased quality of life for people suffering a wide array of traumas stemming from illness and loss to combat experience, according to Roxanne Black-Weisheit, executive director.
“The fact that Belleruth’s tapes have sold more than 1.5 million copies clearly demonstrates their tremendous impact,” said Black-Weisheit, adding that Naparstek’s work is distinguished by the fact her techniques have been researched by medical facilities and proven to have a lasting effect on people’s lives.
The Symptoms
PTSD is a medically diagnosable condition listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders, or DSM-IV. Some people suffer indefinitely after they participate in, or witness, trauma. Symptoms include re-experiencing the event in flashbacks or nightmares, avoiding triggers of bad memories, and distress to the point of impaired functioning and relationships.
Those who come to Naparstek’s talks may still be suffering from surviving a horrific disaster, or from the effects of more mundane — but real and serious — trauma, such as abuse, crime or the death of a loved one.
Naparstek, now widowed with three grown children and two grandsons, has not experienced a great disaster. But she has suffered mild bouts of PTSD.
“At least in Western civilization the biggest cause of trauma is auto collision. I’ve had PTSD from some car accidents, and a couple of muggings here and there. If you lived in Chicago on the South Side, it was just a fact of life,” she said, referring to her undergraduate and graduate school days at the University of Chicago in the 1960s, where she earned her bachelor’s and master’s degrees.
“I could say I’m a trauma survivor of sorts, but that’s not what attracted me to this field. The appeal of working with people who suffer from trauma is that they are so open for growth, it’s dazzling.”
That trauma can undo people to the point of having a new identity is a notion that has been around for a couple of decades, surfacing notably in the work of Dr. Judith Lewis Herman of Harvard Medical School, author of the 1992 landmark book “Trauma and Recovery: The aftermath of violence –from domestic abuse to political terror.”
After trauma, people feel “cast out of the human and divine systems of care and protection that sustain life,” Herman wrote.
So all their assumptions about justice and order in the world are shattered, and their own ultimate powerlessness affirmed. So, too, is their capacity for feeling joy in the moment and, potentially, a realization about a wider spiritual perspective on life. They are never the same again.
As work on trauma emerged, so did studies about imagery, some of them cross-cultural. The results cumulated until technology such as the MRI and PET scans made it possible to see the workings of the human brain. This “magical confluence of information,” as Naparstek calls it, opened a window into the chemical world of the brain and emotion never before perceived.
The Biochemical Loop
The effects of trauma, it turns out, are biochemical, and emotions are psychological manifestations of hormone swings, Naparstek explained. There is not so much a mind/body connection involved as a mind/body unity.
“You can separate them and say: This is what the mind is doing, this is what the body is doing,” she explained. “But the fact of the matter is, it’s going on at the same time. The mind is influencing the body. The body is influencing the mind. It is as one.”
Here’s how it works, according to current scientific understanding: The right, or primitive, brain is about survival and processing nonverbal cues of danger. It’s the part of the brain that snaps to when a trauma is under way.
“It’s a movement out of the corner of your eye. It’s a bristle of alarm in the back of your neck. It’s hearing an odd sound. It’s about sensory fragments,”Naparstek said. “The primitive brain is so critical to safety that it overrides any thinking mechanism and just goes into gear. So you act before you know why. That’s why the thinking brain is out in left field, literally, when it comes to this stuff.”
Going into gear means that the body, for its own protection, is imprinting the brain with the experience to ensure it will not get hurt in the same way again. The imprint comes by way of huge jolts of Adrenalin, cortisol and epinephrine. In the aftermath, the body tries to settle itself with huge blasts of opioids.
The body swings from one state to another, at the mercy of these chemical washes, sometimes for weeks. Most people’s bodies will self-regulate naturally after a time, Naparstek explained.
But for other people the washes of alarm drugs and opioids keep going. They are the PTSD sufferers.
“The most wonderful thing I get from either mail or e-mail or the workshops or talks I do is people coming up and literally bonking their foreheads with the heel of their hand and going, ‘I’m not crazy. This explains me to me,’”Naparstek said. “There is such wonderful relief in that.”
Understanding that the whole process rests in the primitive brain — and not in the left brain, the seat of language and reasoning — explains why talk therapy alone has not helped PTSD sufferers, according to Naparstek. For decades psychotherapists had patients talking about their traumas over and over again, causing those chemical cascades to restart and play out. In the name of healing, much suffering ensued. In her book Naparstek counts herself among the well-intentioned majority who did just that. But no more.
In recovery from trauma, there still is room for “good, old-fashioned, deep-dish psychotherapy,” she said. But not first. Not before imagery has been given to patients as a way to self-soothe and stop their biochemical loop of misery. There also is room for drugs, which may provide people great relief from the biochemical loop in the early stages of their trauma, before they’ve learned the skills guided imagery can afford them.
Power of Metaphor
If the loop of alarm chemicals and opioids is automatic, then the deliberate use of imagery can be thought of as putting the whole process on manual. This is deliberate relaxation.
“You’re reminding the body that it knows how to do this,” Naparstek said.
The guided sensory imagery journeys produced by her company, Health Journeys, leave room for individual PTSD sufferers to conjure their own images. They make reference to a safe, peaceful place, for example, or to gentle guardians. Such things mean different things to different people.
In “Invisible Heroes,”Naparstek tells the story of Frannie, a PTSD patient who experienced multiple traumas and conjured the image of a stone in her chest. As time and therapy passed, the stone softened into a heart.
Nationwide licensed clinical social workers and licensed psychologists are incorporating a variety of innovative imagery therapies into their practices. In the Morris area the BDB group — standing for Victoria Britt of Montclair, John Diepold Jr. of Moorestown and Sheila Bender of Florham Park — happily uses Naparstak’s work.
Britt and Bender agree that the therapies have proven powerful and profound in their practices, and that they are best administered by a well-seasoned clinician within “the trappings of therapy.”
“Imagery therapy uses lovely, very invitational language in urging people to pick the images they need to heal,” said Britt, a licensed clinical social worker. “These images encapsulate metaphors and, somehow, just the healing needed.”
Bender, a licensed psychologist, agreed metaphors are potent.
“We’re wending our way in human capacity,” she said. “There is so much we don’t know about gaining entree to the mind. Metaphors do have a concreteness, though. They can heal. Hypnosis heals, and guided imagery is a form of hypnosis.”
The Next Steps
As exciting as imagery work is, according to Naparstek, it’s still new and needs refining.
There are some people, for example, for whom guided imagery does not work — people for whom relaxation feels dangerous, and veterans whose trauma includes feelings of guilt for having been an instrument of violence.
Imagery work also has potential value for use in traumas of great magnitude, such as Hurricane Katrina and 9/11. Instead of leaving people to the images in their heads, or replaying the same footage of catastrophe for weeks on end, multi-sensory imagery tracks can be used to stop bad biochemical loops from starting.
“We can develop downloads for people to use,” Naparstak said. “If anything should happen where people have to pile up in a place like the Superdome again, as a result of some threat, we could be giving out methods — maybe a combination of imagery with some tapping exercises. We could be explaining to them some of the crazy hormone swings they are going to have.
“You can have maybe five tracks of different exercises people can do right then and there to help them.”
Using imagery at those times, she said, could be more than therapeutic. It could, in her words, be “wildly inoculative.”
Lorraine Ash can be reached at (973) 428-6660 or lvash@gannett.com.
Reprinted with permission of the Daily Record.
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Studies Show Putting Off Work Worsens Physical and Mental Behaviors
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Putting off studying for an upcoming test may cause more than just stress.
A 2002 study conducted by Fuschia Sirois and Timothy Pychyl of Carleton University in Ottawa found college students who procrastinate on their schoolwork are likely to have unhealthy sleep, diet and exercise patterns.
Procrastinating on academic work also yields to higher rates of smoking, drinking, digestive ailments, insomnia and cold and flu symptoms. Procrastinators also have a tendency to postpone seeking medical treatment for acute health problems, according to the study.
Marsha Weinberg, a licensed clinical social worker at Counseling and Psychological Services at San Diego State, said procrastination involves a substitution or delaying of one particular activity for another.
Students who procrastinate often experience a lot of stress, worry and fear.
“It’s really hard to be a procrastinator and not feel stressed,” Weinberg said.
Why Students Procrastinate
Students may also procrastinate because of fear, boredom or rebellion. They may delay activities because they feel uncomfortable or have poor impulse control, she said.
“It takes a lot of determination to sit down and say, ‘do a paper,’” she said. “It’s hard work. There might be things that you’d rather be doing, and so it takes a lot of commitment and dedication.”
Political science sophomore Adam Snyder said students procrastinate because they are afraid of facing what they have to do.
Procrastinating allows Snyder to delay completing assignments he doesn’t prefer, such as his history essays, he said.
However, he recognizes procrastinating causes assignments to build up and increases anxiety, he said.
“All of a sudden, instead of one thing, you’ve got to do a ton of other things, and then it just gets horrible,” Snyder said.
Snyder’s procrastination causes him unnecessary stress.
“It’s kind of like a Band-Aid,” he said. “You just rip it off all at once, and it’s painful.”
Changing Behaviors
Weinberg said overcoming procrastination requires breaking a habit and learning time management skills.
“Anytime you’re talking about changing a behavioral habit, it’s going to take commitment, dedication and a lot of practice,” she said.
The first step toward changing a procrastination habit is acknowledgment, Weinberg said.
“Anytime you find yourself saying later is better, that’s typically a red flag to yourself – a clue to yourself that you’re procrastinating” she said.
Accounting senior Dave Kausek said people procrastinate mostly because they feel bogged down when they are constantly doing work. At a point, one’s social life takes priority, he said.
Kausek, who is procrastinating on a paper himself, said sometimes students can be out of touch with reality.
People should know if they won’t be able to finish a 20-page paper in four hours, or even in one night, he said.
“Students should be realistic with themselves,” Kausek said. “If they know they can get something done the night before, then that’s fine.”
Pychyl and Sirois’s study, along with others before, found no correlation between a student’s grade point average and the level at which he or she procrastinates.
Some students procrastinate but still get good grades because they do a good job, Kausek said. Other procrastinators are lazy and don’t really care.
“Procrastination is a bit of an art form,” he said. “Those who do it well are very gifted and talented.” However, Weinberg said procrastinators who do well in classes may still suffer.
“You can procrastinate, and you still might be able to pull off a good grade, but you really have to weigh that against the mental, psychological, emotional and physical anguish that you’ve felt,” she said.
Organization is one way students can overcome procrastination. Making a timeline of what needs to be done and breaking tasks down is helpful, she said.
Weinberg recommends books such as Do It Now!: Break the Procrastination Habit and The Procrastination Workbook: Your Personalized Program for Breaking Free From the Patterns That Hold You Back, both by Dr. William Knaus, to help students who are struggling with the habit.
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